Driving force of the family – Mothers
They deserve more...
You will find thousands of things on the internet about how a mother should take care of her kids. Even hundreds about how a mother should take care of herself but the truth is do we get that much of time? A research study found that an average mother gets only 17 minutes break for herself during the day. That means over the week while working, taking care of the children doing 78% of the household work she manages to get less than an hour and a half to herself.
Some with more resources may say yes we get time to relax and unwind because of nannies, sitters and monitors but the reality is that is not the norm. Everyone tells us to get a nice relaxing bath, exercise daily, eat the right kind of foods to get complete nutrition, take a vacation, take an off from work and go shopping for yourself, enjoy your quiet time and the list is endless without even feeling guilty about it.
But how much do you think is possible? Or is truly happening? Before children most women don't put self care on their to do list, or is very intentional about it. Now that we have kids, every decision revolves around them including how and when we take care of ourselves.
Mothers – We nurture the whole family. But what shocked me was that there are mothers whose hectic schedules don’t even give them a minute’s space for themselves. Around 51% of women spend a complete week taking care of the job and the family without even a single minute relaxing on their own.
A study was conducted with 2000 women and nearly three quarters felt that they lived entirely for other people. They are doing the chores alone with a little or no time left for their hobbies or interests. The only paradise they have got is their bedroom where they can go and fall asleep after a daylong of hard work. The only excitement left is the chance of getting a glimpse of their favorite TV show or reading a chapter in a book.
But most of us believe and know mothers are the driving force of the family and if we switch off completely, question is who will take care of the family? Truth is sometimes we start losing ourselves in the process. There is That internal dialogue "I can do this, get it all done, but we must take time out and start taking care of ourselves. I firmly believe the superwoman syndrome is causing many moms to feel burn out and overwhelmed. But there is hope, and We can over come and prioritize self-care and mommy time.
I firmly believe We cannot give what We do not have therefore taking time out to recharge, and re-balance goes a long way in not only helping us but also our families. When mom is relaxed, kids and families are relaxed as well. The happiness spreads and is contagious. Here are my top 3 ways to prioritize "mom time".
1. Aim for an hour or "me time everyday" that could be in 10 or 15 minute increments. Put it on your to-do list and set an alarm on your phone that goes off as a reminder. And just do it.
2. Get your kids and family involved, delegate more, assign more tasks, don't mind if it's not done perfectly. Start a kids and dad in charge day, my son loves it. Let them decide what needs to be done, and strategize how.
3. Say no more. Say it with confidence and don't over think it.
We hope you put these in practice and start seeing and experiencing the benefits. We wish more balance and self care practice for moms all around the world. It’s time for us to change a little and make a big difference in our lives. We hope you enjoyed reading. Share your top self care tips with us.
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